
The question was “ I’m almost 60 but feel like I’m worse off than I was earlier in my career.” “ Retiring is impossible as I’m still supporting a family. “” How can I relieve these pressures?”
Susan Pinker ( spinker@globeandmail.com ) ” suggests you command yourself to set firmer boundaries around your personal time, some of which you should use to gain a little perspective.” “ Your challenge is to gain a sense of proportion while protecting some needed leisure time as a reward for your efforts to date. “
“One way to acquire perspective is to consider the working lives of your parents and grandparents. On average, mid-career individuals are out-earning, out-living,, and enjoying far more luxurious lives than their ancestors did throughout the world and expect to live one-third longer. ”
Dr. Matt Ridley in his book ( The Rational Optimist ), ” shows that our lives , including our working lives are improving dramatically with each generation. Rich or poor, three-quarters of us now have cellphones, televisions, cars, and live a life of untold largesse according to the standards of the 1920s through 1950s.” “In 2005, compared with 1955, the average human being, earned nearly three times as much money.”
Psychologist Susan Spinker offers, “happiness and ideas about success hinge on context and your current mindset. “ “Our level of satisfaction is tied to our perception of how we’re doing in relation to relatives and freinds.”. “What we’re convinced will thrill us in the future—a new home, a new car—early retirement, usually doesn’t.
These round-the-clock pressures can sap your soul . ONLY IF YOU LET THEM.!
One of these utmost stress levels has been determined due to the failure of individuals and parents to have finalized a Family Will, and yet, it is the easiest and simplist endeavor to accomplish.
It is one thing to over-come obstacles put in front of you by circumstances,…..but for gracious sake……DON”T CREATE YOUR OWN OBSTACLES .
If your loving wife and children are your main focus in life, show your devotion by leaving a proper road map ( WILL ) to follow for their futures.
That will eliminate more stress than one can ever imagine for the whole family and all your relatives.