Archive for January 19th, 2010
Living Wills
How to cope with aging parents who you watch getting older each day.
Facing the death of a parent can be a traumatic experience for the family and children of any age.
Having to cope with with the loss of a parent is an issue no one wants to experience, yet it is a factual part of living.
It should be remembered that coming to terms with the death of a parent happens in a process of stages and is usually not something that happens overnight. That is why it is important to try to determine their wishes about what they want family to do about a family Will, ( if there is one)
Since there is no right way to grieve, each should grieve in their own way. Some grieve outwardly through tears and expressed emotions, others, inwardly and keep the hurt they feel to themselves.
If talking about the situation makes one feel better, then they should express themselves. No one however, is obligated to anyone to tell them how they feel.
Learn to cope by remembering that even though your parents physical presence is gone, the relationship you had with them still exists. It will live on forever through you. Hold tight to your memories and keep the relationship alive despite their death and physical absence.
No matter what you do, your parents are going to age right before your eyes. Before you were even born, your parents knew aging at some point would be a factor. Everyone is in the same boat and will be aging soon., hopefully minus any serious illness or handicap, and some, sooner than others.
Help them in their declininng years to be sure that the family planning, and what is to happen to their estate after they pass, is properly addressed. It is to be expected that they above all, would not want to leave a mess after they are gone.
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